I'm kind of frustrated I still haven't found my talent

DarthMegaBex
568 posts Member
edited November 2016
You guys have this problem? I'm pretty all around, pretty average in a lot of aspects. I act like I'm not fazed by it but I'm both happy and jealous for those who found theirs. I feel like without a talent I'm never going to find my place?

The closest thing I have as a talent is swimming/mma but I'm not a genius in both, only ever got 1 gold in swimming and never in fighting. Asthma gets in the way a lot. Maybe I just want to be really good at something and not just above/average.

I understand people work hard to improve and I'm just disappointed in myself that I try so hard at multiple things and there's always this wall?

Should I focus on only one thing or keep looking for something? Any input on some people who found their place?
I'm in my early-mod twenties btw

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  • Leaving a mark, a positive one, is on many minds. Myself, I find I'm having to reinvent myself. Again. And I'm closer to 60 then I prefer. We each traverse many climbs, and ascend to many plateaus. Each one, we stop and look around, (or should) and take stock. Realize we made it this far. Acknowledge those we met along the way, those that helped us, those we helped. If we can smile and be proud of our journey thus far, and how we have progressed, then the mark we leave, won't soon be erased. If ever. Talent is how you start the journey. May yours be worthy of your desire.

    /swordsalute
  • I don't want to be famous, well known or any of that to be honest. I just want to have a place of my own, something that I can do well. Wasted talent is what irks me the most but money comes first after all.

    The biggest influence on my pursuit of talent was a Manga called "Holyland", A guy who was only good at studying found his "holyland" in underground fighting. He was able to pick up fast and became a thug hunter to protect that "holyland".

    Fiction yeah but the passion the MC as do many people have makes me envious. I can only feel frustration in the end.
    There will always be people better but I just want to find something that doesn't make me feel like empty in the end? Does that make sense? Lol
  • Your wish to find a talent sounds more like a desire to find a purpose. Sometimes our purpose can be discovered helping others. Or letting our heart guide us. There are many facets to life, and we spend our lives tarnishing and polishing them.

    You mentioned MMA, I have a piece of advice I read, and never forgot, "The best way to avoid a punch? Don't be there when it is thrown" Bruce Lee.
  • Well fighting I'm pretty much an outfighter so I'm never a favorite as infighters or grappling specialists and my best stroke in swimming is Breaststroke, been doing both since 3rd grade. In other activities I find myself also taking the least popular styles to be honest Bc I feel like that's what fits me or I excel at that style/part.

    I have found a career I want to do, can sustain myself fine but I want that thing I can do that I can be passionate about. If anything I'm passionate about finding my talent or purpose as you said lol
  • I've found that I don't have a specific thing I'm in the top 90% (or whatever) either. I've spent years trying to find a hobby I enjoy only to find I enjoyed learning new things instead. I like learning how stuff works, whether I make that my hobby or not. Jack of all, master of none.

    Also found that to get over that "wall" that seems like it's turning your hobby into work, the trick is to just be patient. I've wanted to learn something so fast that I get frustrated by how I'm not getting as good as I want fast enough. Be patient.
  • For what it's worth my opinion on this is that if you haven't found your purpose yet or something that you excell at then perhaps your looking in the wrong places take stick of where you are and what you want set a goal something small to star then when you reach that goal set a bigger one and so on and have faith in your self only you know where you want to go and what you want to achieve believe you can do it and your halfway there
  • Snake2
    1455 posts Member
    Keep trying new things. You'll find your passion. You may feel like you should have figured things out by now, but no one ever truly figures things out. Don't focus on being the best. Just keep striving to be better. Good luck!
  • Geocaching. You need to try geocaching. It gets you out and about to new and interesting places. You'll meet new people. At some point in the journey you'll end up at a place you never knew existed and find that talent. For example, we ended up in a cemetery where my wife's great-great-great-great-grandfather was buried. It sparked a whole branch of genealogy for her and my mother in law.

    There are two ways to be good at something btw, talent and hard work. I prefer using my talents to make a living but I use hard work at the things I enjoy.
  • You know guys I was expecting negative replies TBH lol
    Personally I think I feel this about talents is Bc of my past exp with swimming/mma Bc that's when I kept looking for other activities. In short I kind of give up fast now I guess. Makes me feel better that I'm not the only one who has felt this way. Thought I was weird :P
  • Snake2
    1455 posts Member
    We're nice in off topic. I'd be careful in the rest of the forum haha
  • You guys have this problem? I'm pretty all around, pretty average in a lot of aspects. I act like I'm not fazed by it but I'm both happy and jealous for those who found theirs. I feel like without a talent I'm never going to find my place?

    The closest thing I have as a talent is swimming/mma but I'm not a genius in both, only ever got 1 gold in swimming and never in fighting. Asthma gets in the way a lot. Maybe I just want to be really good at something and not just above/average.

    I understand people work hard to improve and I'm just disappointed in myself that I try so hard at multiple things and there's always this wall?

    Should I focus on only one thing or keep looking for something? Any input on some people who found their place?
    I'm in my early-mod twenties btw

    As individuals with potentially limitless directions to take in life and the ability to choose our evolutionary path, the real question isn't what your talent is, but WHY do you want a talent. You obviously take time for self-awareness and reflection, which is a necessity for refining a talent. By reflecting (On whatever), your development and understanding increase. The brain is a muscle just like most of The human body. In reality you already have talents that you are just blind to seeing as personal gifts and have to work out your mind to recognize the unique gifts. Aside from that, a talent in the end is completely subjective. SWIM is a drug addict and has chosen to make that their talent...not all talents are beneficial to personal growth
  • You guys have this problem? I'm pretty all around, pretty average in a lot of aspects. I act like I'm not fazed by it but I'm both happy and jealous for those who found theirs. I feel like without a talent I'm never going to find my place?

    The closest thing I have as a talent is swimming/mma but I'm not a genius in both, only ever got 1 gold in swimming and never in fighting. Asthma gets in the way a lot. Maybe I just want to be really good at something and not just above/average.

    I understand people work hard to improve and I'm just disappointed in myself that I try so hard at multiple things and there's always this wall?

    Should I focus on only one thing or keep looking for something? Any input on some people who found their place?
    I'm in my early-mod twenties btw

    As individuals with potentially limitless directions to take in life and the ability to choose our evolutionary path, the real question isn't what your talent is, but WHY do you want a talent. You obviously take time for self-awareness and reflection, which is a necessity for refining a talent. By reflecting (On whatever), your development and understanding increase. The brain is a muscle just like most of The human body. In reality you already have talents that you are just blind to seeing as personal gifts and have to work out your mind to recognize the unique gifts. Aside from that, a talent in the end is completely subjective. SWIM is a drug addict and has chosen to make that their talent...not all talents are beneficial to personal growth

    That's true, a talent for murder would be horrible to have in hindsight as would torture and any nefarious activities
  • I've often pondered this idea to the extreme. We are all good at doing some things. What if you were literally the best pencil sharpener in the world? It is a talent and you are the best. Would you recognize it? Would it matter?
  • You're not the only one.

    My passion was sports/baseball because my dream was to be in the MLB.

    Not to be famous or anything but to play baseball for a living because it was fun and what i loved doing. Once i was done playing in college I never got looked at and have been struggling to find my new passion.

    I love sports and i know i'm still passionate about sports but i don't have a job in what my passion is.

    I don't know what i want to do now so i just have a decent job paying the bills while trying to figure out what i would love to do everyday.
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