You guys have this problem? I'm pretty all around, pretty average in a lot of aspects. I act like I'm not fazed by it but I'm both happy and jealous for those who found theirs. I feel like without a talent I'm never going to find my place?
The closest thing I have as a talent is swimming/mma but I'm not a genius in both, only ever got 1 gold in swimming and never in fighting. Asthma gets in the way a lot. Maybe I just want to be really good at something and not just above/average.
I understand people work hard to improve and I'm just disappointed in myself that I try so hard at multiple things and there's always this wall?
Should I focus on only one thing or keep looking for something? Any input on some people who found their place?
I'm in my early-mod twenties btw
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The biggest influence on my pursuit of talent was a Manga called "Holyland", A guy who was only good at studying found his "holyland" in underground fighting. He was able to pick up fast and became a thug hunter to protect that "holyland".
Fiction yeah but the passion the MC as do many people have makes me envious. I can only feel frustration in the end.
There will always be people better but I just want to find something that doesn't make me feel like empty in the end? Does that make sense? Lol
You mentioned MMA, I have a piece of advice I read, and never forgot, "The best way to avoid a punch? Don't be there when it is thrown" Bruce Lee.
I have found a career I want to do, can sustain myself fine but I want that thing I can do that I can be passionate about. If anything I'm passionate about finding my talent or purpose as you said lol
Also found that to get over that "wall" that seems like it's turning your hobby into work, the trick is to just be patient. I've wanted to learn something so fast that I get frustrated by how I'm not getting as good as I want fast enough. Be patient.
There are two ways to be good at something btw, talent and hard work. I prefer using my talents to make a living but I use hard work at the things I enjoy.
Personally I think I feel this about talents is Bc of my past exp with swimming/mma Bc that's when I kept looking for other activities. In short I kind of give up fast now I guess. Makes me feel better that I'm not the only one who has felt this way. Thought I was weird :P
As individuals with potentially limitless directions to take in life and the ability to choose our evolutionary path, the real question isn't what your talent is, but WHY do you want a talent. You obviously take time for self-awareness and reflection, which is a necessity for refining a talent. By reflecting (On whatever), your development and understanding increase. The brain is a muscle just like most of The human body. In reality you already have talents that you are just blind to seeing as personal gifts and have to work out your mind to recognize the unique gifts. Aside from that, a talent in the end is completely subjective. SWIM is a drug addict and has chosen to make that their talent...not all talents are beneficial to personal growth
That's true, a talent for murder would be horrible to have in hindsight as would torture and any nefarious activities
My passion was sports/baseball because my dream was to be in the MLB.
Not to be famous or anything but to play baseball for a living because it was fun and what i loved doing. Once i was done playing in college I never got looked at and have been struggling to find my new passion.
I love sports and i know i'm still passionate about sports but i don't have a job in what my passion is.
I don't know what i want to do now so i just have a decent job paying the bills while trying to figure out what i would love to do everyday.